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How to make the BEST bubble bath for yourself, or someone you love.
What kind of mood you want? There are no wrong answers :) Creative? Relaxing? Melancholy? This initial choice will help set the other axioms below.
I actually think whatever you do right before the bubblebath matters too. So maybe while the water is filling, indulge in reading fiction or poetry, work on some fun brainteasers, or do something mentally invigorating but of low consequence, right before your relaxation period. Some suggestions:
- Zeno’s Paradoxes
- Vladimir Nabokov’s Poems and Puzzles
- Twenty Plays of the Nō Theater
Make sure whatever you’re seeing is everything you want, and nothing you don’t want. So get rid of clutter and distractions. Make sure you don’t have your phone on, and that you don’t have a really important thing that might happen during this time. *This should be a timeless space* Or at least, orthogonal to the meter of the outside world…
Tip #1: Focus on the present moment and for lighting use tall Roman candlesticks. The little flame slowly descending is a beautiful visual representation of time passing (instead of the illusion of abundance from a light switch), and it mimics the sensation of dynamically dimming light in nature, like a sunset. Also, it just looks so pretty! Candlelight makes everyone look beautiful.
Decide what aromas you love and make sure they all go together well (I recommend the smell of the bubblebath itself should be unscented so you’re soaking in fewer chemicals, and any candles and/or essential oils should stick to one theme. Some options:
- Citrusy, Fruity (more energizing)
- Fresh, Floral (more relaxing, esp if it’s lavender)
- Woody, Musky (this is awesome, or if you wanna go baller status, this). Tip #2: I like using traditionally masculine scents before asking for a raise or promotion; channel that privileged energy! What you expect tends to become real. ;) Side note: if anyone knows what scents Sean Parker or Timothée Chalamet wear lmk (I guess Elon doesn’t wear one)
- Reminiscent (whatever scent is anchored to a memory or time period for you). I have a weird appreciation for Vick’s Vapor Rub. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Decide what kind of music you want to play (or if you want music at all). You might choose a song playlist, or something else (like youtube of a real ocean or forest), you might just choose to observe the natural quiet around you. I recommend using music without words (or using music in a language you don’t understand). I think the key (major/minor), tempo, and unique characteristics of the sound speak to your limbic system instead of the words and explicit expressions appealing to your cortex — which is what you want. But you should pick something you like in the end! Afterall, it’s your perfect bubblebath.
Some of my favorite suggestions:
- If I want to feel creative I like listening to the Harry Potter soundtrack. It makes me feel like magical things are possible (which they are :)
- If I want to feel relaxed, I might listen to Duke Ellington Queen Suites or Edith Piaf.
- If I’m feeling deep and contemplative I might listen to gregorian chants or *this* (so underrated, btw).
- If it’s a stormy day outside, it’s best to just listen to that. Obviously organic sounds are richer than recorded sounds above. If you are SO LUCKY you might have someone sing to you, or enjoy the sound of a real environment instead of a recording of one.
Tip #3: Try to pick some soundtrack that isn’t associated with something else in your life, unless you’re doing it on purpose to invoke some nostalgia. Maybe try to have the sounds match the scents (e.g. I feel lavender goes with Debussy, and *this* goes nicely with Duke Ellington, — I don’t know if they make scent-changing candles to match a dynamic playlist, but that would be cool if they did).
Make sure that after your bubblebath is done, you don’t have anything too crazy planned. It’s not the time to solve the world’s problems or fix things urgently (unless you really want to). It’s more of a time to smile and cozy up in an oversized towel until you feel like getting up and doing whatever comes after :) make sure no one steals the after-moment from you! it’s one of the most important parts. Also super important: use a whole lotta body creme after… use too much (that’s the right amount) AND DRINK H2O :)
ALTHOUGH THERE’S NOTHING GROUNDBREAKING HERE, I HOPE THESE SUGGESTIONS WILL INSPIRE YOU TO DO THIS IRL, AND TO FEEL A LITTLE LESS BLUE OR A LITTLE LESS STRESSED. IT’S ALSO JUST GOOD TO DO EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE, JUST BECAUSE :)
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